If you’re like me, and many other women out there, you’re coming into your femininity later in your life. Maybe you were a tomboy growing up. Maybe you simply had no interest in feminine hobbies and attire, or you pushed back against the expectation to be feminine. If you’re here now though, you’re probably interested in femininity now, and I am here to help you along that same path I followed. There’s many things that fall under the umbrella of femininity. Right now, I’m going to focu on feminizing your wardrobe.
When you first decide you want to dress more femininely, it can be very daunting to look at your wardrobe and wonder how you’re going to get from where you are to where you want to be. Add to that the fact that there many different ways to express your femininity through your attire, and it gets even more complicated. Not very many of us have the money to just go out and purchase a new wardrobe when we decide to change how we dress. That means we need a way to transition our wardrobes. This process can often be frustrating, as you slowly add new pieces that may not fit well with your existing wardrobe, and you try to work out which older pieces are worth keeping and which need to be retired.
Establishing a process is important for remaking your wardrobe. Figure out a goal, and then look at how to get there over time. Begin by pinning down what you want your final look to be. Define your aesthetic. Do you want crisp skirts and silk blouses that evoke ideas of CEOs and country clubs? Do you want a-line skirts and cardigans with vintage silhouettes? Do you want soft, romantic attire more reminiscent of Japanese mori fashion? Whatever look is right for you, define your desired look. I find that creating a pinterest board is very helpful in this stage. Go wild, pin anything that you like, and that fits your aesthetic.
Once you have a clear idea of what you want your look to be, it’s time to figure out how to get there. I like to begin by narrowing down your existing wardrobe. We almost all can stand to trim down our wardrobes. Getting rid of excess items that have no place in our goal wardrobe is the easiest way to make the process easier. If you don’t want to wear jeans anymore, then donating all of your jeans (as long as you still have enough to wear to get you through the week) makes your wardrobe more manageable, and gets you one step closer to your wardrobe goals.
Once you’ve removed the excess from your current wardrobe, you can start reshaping your wardrobe. This begins with assembling outfits from the remaining pieces of your wardrobe. Look at what outfits you already have that meet your goals. You might surprise yourself to find you already have an outfit or two that fits your new look!
From there, you can look at what’s missing from your wardrobe in order to create more looks. Sometimes a single cardigan, or the right accessory can push your wardrobe closer to where it needs to be. For example, say you want a more vintage look, something evoking of the 1950s. A cardigan draped over your shoulders pairs with sweaters, scoop neck blouses, t shirts, capiris, pants, and a variety of skirts to give an outfit a vintage vibe. If you’re wanting a more professional look, something you could wear to an office, a feminine blazer can dress up everything from jeans and a blouse to a dress. Try to pinpoint that one piece which is versatile enough to fill as many of your needs as possible.
This gets you to the point where you can dress close to your goals. Over time, as you get new pieces, continue to weed out ones that don’t quite fit your image. Refine your wardrobe by bringing in higher quality pieces that fit your image, and removing anything that isn’t what you’re wanting.
Now, you’re probably wondering about specific item to make your wardrobe more feminine. As I mentioned before, there is a wide range of feminine looks. There are some tips though for how to tailor a more feminine look.
1.) Skirts and dresses. Skirts and dresses are obviously and traditionally feminine.
2.) Feminine details. Lace, beading, bows. All of these details can add a feminine flair to your look.
3.) Add a purse or clutch. A purse is a nice feminine accessory that can be added to any outfit, and personally I like having space to put my things.
4.) Cinched waists. Whether it’s a fitted top with a nipped waist, or a cute belt, adding something which accentuates your waist can make an outfit look more feminine.
5.) Jewelry. Even if it’s just a pair of delicate stud earrings, or a simple strand necklace, jewelry add a feminine touch to an outfit.
6.) Feminine shoes. Now, this does not mean you have to wear heels. A cute pair of ballet flats works fell as well. Stay away from athletic shoes, except for when you’re doing sports.
7.) Makeup. I’m not one to usually do a full face of makeup. Adding lipgloss instantly makes me look more feminine though. Find a look you’re comfortable with, and that you feel good doing.
8.) Nails. You don’t have to paint your nails or get manicures. However, taking care of your nails is important for a polished and feminine look. Keep your nails neat, and clean. If you work with your hands a lot, there is nothing wrong with keeping your nails short.
9.) Perfume. Adding perfume or a nice body spray, while not directly affecting your look, does increase the general air of femininity that you have. If you’re like me, and never wore perfume really, adding a delicate scent also is a great way to make you feel more feminine!
10.) Hair. Your hair does not need to be perfectly curled and coiffed, but it should be styled to give you a more feminine look. Keeping a brush in your purse is a great way to make sure that your hair still looks fresh throughout the day. Ponytails, buns, and braids are also a great way to keep your hair neat and feminine.
I hope that some of these tips help you out, and that you feel confident moving forward in your efforts to dress more femininely. Remember, it’s a process, and it’s okay to take your time with it, and to experiment!